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Desire Formula

Desire Formula

This is how you can find your Desire in life.


Where am I? + Who am I? = What do I want?

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  1. WHERE am I?: This gives you a direction and a motivation.

  • What does my family need?

  • Who depends on me?

  • Which relationships align with me and which don’t?

  • What features of my external world don’t match my inner world, and how can I change that, even if my contribution seems tiny?

  • I accept that I am a human right now, so how does that reconcile with how annoying I find human needs?

  1. (plus) WHO am I?: This is the nature of the light or dark you have to share with the external world.

  • What are the values, principles, and beliefs in my inner world?

  • What kind of person do I want to be?

  • Does my background story control my future, or can I fix past traumas to have a better future?

  • If I don’t work to see my inner world in the external world, how can I better the world and reach my dream?

  • What circumstances and which people have issues that only my unique perspective can guide?

  1. (equals) WHAT do I want?:
  • If I can achieve this desire without the external world—without anyone knowing, without any praise, and without any validation—would I still want to do it?

If the answer to step 3 is yes, then this is something that aligns with you. If it’s no, then it means that you don’t actually want it. You only want people to see you get it.