We can use the first two learning points for Self-identity to find desire.
- WHERE gives you a direction and a motivation.
- What does my family need?
- Who depends on me?
- Which relationships align with me and which don’t?
- What features of my external world don’t match my inner world, and how can I change that, even if my contribution seems tiny?
- I accept that I am a human right now, so how does that reconcile with how annoying I find human needs?
- (plus) WHO shows you the nature of the light or dark you have to share with the external world.
- What are the values, principles, and beliefs in my inner world?
- What kind of person do I want to be?
- Does my background story control my future, or can I fix past traumas to have a better future?
- If I don’t work to see my inner world in the external world, how can I better the world and reach my dream?
- What circumstances and which people have issues that only my unique perspective can guide?
- (equals) WHAT hints at what you want.
- If I can achieve this desire without the external world—without anyone knowing, without any praise, and without any validation—would I still want to do it?
- If the answer to step 3 is yes, then this is something that aligns with you. If it’s no, then it means that you don’t actually want it. You only want people to see you get it.