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Good morrow, everyone. We’ll start on the topic of self-love, and by the program’s standards, that means being true to who you are. It’s the balance between quiet humility and righteousness in defense of your own dignity. You can’t let others treat you like garbage.
Let’s get into Mrs. Huang’s story. She was a successful stockbroker, and she had many clients eager to give her their money. In fact, she had over $10 million of her clients’ money to invest. Many clients rushed specifically to her because she was so capable. You would think that she was a very sharp, prudish, and harsh person, quick to call out nonsense. Mrs. Huang was the opposite of this. She was meek, guarded, and she cared for her clients. She cared a little too much.
On average, she spent three or four hours a day assuaging her clients’ volatile and commanding personalities. Even though Mrs. Huang had already earned them tens of thousands of dollars based on her own abilities, the clients continuously harangued her, criticizing what she planned to do with their money. It was almost as if the clients were telling her how to do her job, which she clearly didn’t need.
Mrs. Huang’s sensitive personality was genuinely injured, and she didn’t know how much more she could take. She was so desperate to alleviate the pressure that she scheduled a meeting with one of her best clients. Mr. Lee wasn’t a good client because of how much money he gave her but because he was quiet. He didn’t berate her or tell her how to do her job. He trusted her and let her do what she decided with his money.
During the meeting, Mrs. Huang confessed that she was having a difficult time at work. Mr. Lee immediately understood what was happening. While she needed to take some care in how she handled the clients, he found that she was allowing the clients to affect her mood. It was admirable, noble that she cared for her clients, but he said she needn’t spend so much time caring about them. Leave work relationships at work, and don’t take them home.
Mr. Lee had more to say in that she should express more love for herself so that she may defend herself more against her clients’ affronting arguments against her ability. The clients were like wolves, and she was like a sheep. They liked to bark at her, but actually they needed her more than she needed them. Once she realized this, she saw what had been happening clearly.
Mrs. Huang was clearly a skilled broker, yet she allowed people to question her professionalism. She allowed her kind nature to lead, and it was as if she refused to show her aggressive side in her own defense. Instead, she let her clients trample her emotions. It burdened her so much that she sought help and advice from a client that respected her more than any other.
The moral of Mrs. Huang’s story is that you have to have love for yourself in order to protect yourself. While it may be true that you have love, you have to act on it by drawing your boundaries. If something bothers you, whether its in a professional or casual situation, you must be active against it. If you won’t defend yourself, other people will gladly try to manipulate you. Love yourself enough that you see this coming and guard yourself against it.